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Tuesday, 10 May 2011

Lets Talk About Sex

Lets talk about sex.

Now i guess if you click on the link, you will get a nice little message saying that you cannot watch this video unless you are over 18, as it is just too damn dirty. Fair enough. I love a bit of censorship as much as the next person. And i'm sure some people don't want to watch Rihanna playing with a blow up doll and walking her gimp. I've never met any, but i'm sure they exist.
The thing that annoys me in relation to this song is hearing it on the radio. I quite like the song, its nothing lyrically or musically brilliant but its fun and she's got quite a nice voice. But when i hear this on the radio, it goes like this:
I may be bad but i'm perfectly good at it BLANK in the air i don't care i love the smell of it. Sticks and stones my break my bones but BLANK and BLANK excite me.
It even misses out the S&M bit, and the song is renamed 'come on'.

BUT the songs 'Sexbomb' by Tom Jones and 'Lets Talk About Sex' by Salt-N-Pepa are played in their entirety on the radio. So i'm a little confused... Are we allowed to talk about sex or not?
Perhaps in context S&M is a little more explicit, but if Rihanna does get off on whips and chains, should we really judge her? To be honest i would rather hear about sadomasochism than any more whiny bullshit pop about BABY BABY BABY thought you always would be mine cos we've been together for like, a whole month when we're 13.

I understand that kids listen to the radio and sing along, and that our society sexualises chidren far too young anyway. But i really don't think a song is going to make them want to go out and buy a ball gag.
I remember doing ballet dancing (oh the shame) when i was probably younger than 10. And our teacher's song of choice was the aforementioned 'Sexbomb'. I LOVED it. And had absolutely no idea what it was about. And really didn't care much.  Having just googled the lyrics, its essentially about how sex makes him feel good, and his girl is very good at it. So... basically the same idea as Rihanna's song. Just minus the gimps.

So I think what i'm trying to say is that sex, with or without kinkyness is natural. Mostly. And we should be able to talk about it and sing about it. Especially if we are Rihanna.

4 comments:

  1. Totally. The fact that so many things are hidden from kids will probably just cause problems for them. It's all nature.

    Then again, I do think little kids are getting sexualised early and you see so many little slags humping the air before their 9th birthday.

    It's an interesting topic, because there's people from both extremes. I just, personally, think the parents should care enough and be good enough to be able to explain everything sensibly so that they don't think the kinky and objectifying crap on TV is normal and so that they think sex /is/ normal and know what it is and means.

    Parents are scum, nowadays.

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  2. I think kids are more likely to be fascinated by sex and all that goes with it if they don't know about it. If parents and schools educated kids and didn't make it a taboo subject then i think when it comes to high school you wouldn't get so many baby sluts suddenly obssessing about being sexy. Which would be better for everyone's mental health i think.

    EXAMPLE: Gypsy weddings programme. There is no such thing as a healthy relationship before marriage and little real education about sex, and little real education at all for most girls. Hence all the girls dressed literally to sell themselves. Their only value is as a sex object.

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  3. Better example than sexbomb: Sex on the beach

    It's about getting steaming on cocktails and fucking on a beach in foreign countries... but everybody knew it, everybody sang it and everybody was only 5.

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  4. Can't believe i forgot Sex on the Beach! Though i looked up the lyrics and its just so much gibberish i don't even know what its talking about now...

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